For us it was bliss.
The only problem was that the joining of strengths and weaknesses that happens in marriage left me a bit weaker with regard to details. Two weeks into the first class I had to take without her in my own major, I totally missed! 16 years later however, she's still my superior with regard to the details - and my have they grown! Homework, Little League, Tae Kwon Doe, report cards, permission slips, lesson plans, feedback, PTA, UFT, OMG! I feel inundated with nonsense no ethics and social philosophy major should ever face alone and yet they are critical to the ones I love and am at least co-responsible for.
Thank God I have her here to blame for most of it (the true virtue of marriage!)
I'm superior in something else.
I can remember that exact moment 16 years ago - tomorrow - when I'd just returned home from a short trip. We weren't together yet, but we were communicating and we'd left off that it was over. It wasn't going to happen. She was gonna go her way/I was gonna go mine, and that was gonna be it.
I can remember that exact feeling in my gut that forced my hand to that phone, dialed her number and blurted a few words that basically amounted to "Come here now please."
I can remember the feeling of relief and other things when I turned around and she was at my door.
I couldn't tell you who kissed who. I can't even tell you in all honesty that was our first kiss. And I really can't tell you much about what happened right after that.
But I can tell you it was the right decision.
Happy "Real" Anniversary Love! I think we both totally missed the legal marriage one - again. But we know what counts.