There is no real rest in life. There’s a path, but how many of us are really ever on it for and extended amount of time? It’s narrow and tenuous. Hopefully, it’s forgiving.
What follows is that you need a fundamental understanding in order to endure. You need to know your truth. So many of us don’t. Or have lost our way. It’s easy to know when you’ve lost your way. You feel sad. Or angry. Hurt. Diseased. You need help. You feel guilty. Lonely. Out of control. Scared.
None of these are bad and we all feel them. Judging them in yourself or in others is hypocritical. These are moments we really need to stop acting. Withdraw and breathe. Count. Talk it through with someone close. Get back into a present moment. Find the now.
It won’t solve the problems. It will stop you from making them worse. If you’re not in control, or coming from a “good place” you shouldn’t drive. And you do drive. You drive the course of your life.
The universe speaks to us though. We know this. If you don’t, access the now a little harder. You’re life isn’t yours as you are now to create, but it is yours to observe and respond to. Do that long enough and you’ll see. Feeling negative? Pay attention to the negative you put out there. Your thoughts, words, actions. Feeling alone? Whose hand have you held with unconditional love and acceptance recently? Feeling angry? Who have you angered? Whose anger have you sullied? This is where you can pull on the truths of the greats: Buddha, Jesus, Mohammed, Lao Tzu, etc. They heard the universe. They listened. But many many others have too. We are all each other’s angels and demons. Whether we are ultimately in Heaven, or Hell, some computer program, or the cell of some child’s bubble. If you stop and listen, love and really know and feel how much we don’t know, you’ll stop judging. Stop playing god, and be one.
I've been trying to learn to be aware of myself for years. It ain't easy. Too often, I react to external stimuli without first recognizing how I feel about it. That is how I give so much power to others.
ReplyDeleteI need to S.T.O.P. (a tool I've been given through therapy)
STOP what I'm going to say or do in immediate knee-jerk response to external stimuli.
THINK about what I am feeling about the situation.
Look at my OPTIONS, what are the different ways I can handle this?
PLAN a deliberate course of action.
S.T.O.P.
Stop
Think
Options
Plan
Now, if only I could get those first two steps under control, I might be able to accomplish the last two steps and I'd likely be a better human being...